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Rethinking the passion quest

1) I haven’t actually kep to my deal of writing here. I have the best excuse: I forgot.
2) I finally actually do have new material to write. It’s going to go against what I up until this point believed. It’s going to explain a lot of why this whole thing of “finding my passion” hasn’t been working.

I get a lot of my material from reading articles. My reading articles activities were down lately. That is, until yesterday. So I’ve read many articles on certain blogs. I want to highlight one blog in particular. And because it’s a new blog I found, I’ve read many articles on it.

The blog I’m talking about is Study Hacks.

I went there, because I read in another article the phrase ” “follow your passion” is bad advice “. Which Cal Newport, the author of Study Hacks, claimed. It made me curious about what he meant and whatever his advice would be instead.

Newport suggests a new definition of passion: “The feeling that arises from have mastered a skill that earns you recognition and rewards.”
He suggests that passion doesn’t simply exist. It is created, cultivated, by doing something an awful lot.

A post I really enjoyed is “Zen and the Art of Investment Banking: When Working Right is More Important than Finding the Right Work“, it tells the tale of Thomas and the lessons he learned. I really recommend reading it. After all I’m not here to retell it.

Let’s think about what this means for a moment. It means that my search has been in vain. It means that it makes sense that my search hasn’t turned anything up yet. What have I deliberately focused on to the point of mastering it? Nothing. (my mom would probably argue being lazy, but I already changed that around)

So following Newport’s theory, if I haven’t mastered anything, how can I be passionate about anything?

I do think there’s a nuance here, I don’t think just mastering any random skill will make you passionate about it. Maybe I can’t shake conventional wisdom, but I still feel you need an interest before you can cultivate passion.

I’m not quite interested in my field of work. If I was, I’d probably take more interest in knowing about the latest developments. To pursue something you need an interest in it. When that interest grows because of that, it can lead to becoming a passion. I can see logic in that reasoning.

Let’s talk about my interest in sewing. I like it, I like the idea, I just haven’t made the effort to do much with it. If I could put my focus on sewing and do that till I’m great at it. Or what Newport said in one of his articles “so good that they can’t ignore you”. Wouldn’t it make sense that I would become passionate about sewing? I enjoy it, I’m great at it. Sounds like a great deal. Of course it will need a lot of hard work and I won’t be happy every second of the way. And that’s okay, because I’d be building passion instead of trying to find it.

This idea also clicks with the book I’m reading: Outliers, by Malcolm Gladwell. He explores what it is that make people outliers, or geniuses, successes. Examples like Bill Gates and the Beatles are used.
What Gladwell discovers is opportunities to practice a lot, an insane amount, and then having mastered a skill at just the right time. This leads to success.

Now consider for a moment the people who love their job, isn’t it often that they’re very good at it as well, and isn’t it often that they worked hard to get where they are?

Then it makes perfect sense to argue that passion is something that is build up. And I’d like to add to that, that it comes from an interest pursued obsessively.

Therefor I want to commit myself to start sewing. To practice till I’m great at it.

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Posted by on December 2, 2012 in Uncategorized


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New focus, new plans, new life?

As you all were probably aware of, I’ve been gone. Let me give you a quick update!

I mentioned the Whole30 challenge in my previous official post. Guess what? I’ve started the official Whole30 challenge on August 6th! Today marks my half way point. Today is day 15. I’ve followed the rules 100% and it’s quite an experience so far! I will give you the final results at the end.

I may have stumbled on a passion too. For an upcoming convention I wanted to go in costume. So my friends helped me, by teaching me to sew and etcetera. Turns out, I’m really liking this and seem to have some natural insight. I’ll definitely be developing this! Yesterday I had also a lot of help from my grandma, and she was really pleased with my interest I guess.

I guess a lesson I’m pulling from this:

Passion can be hiding in an unexpected corner. Don’t always try to search for it. Sometimes it will come to you naturally.

Hope you all have a great week!!

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Posted by on August 20, 2012 in Uncategorized


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Whoops, I’m a day late. Of course I should’ve written this right after doing the research. I was busy, I’ll get back to that later. Sunday was just a crappy day. My state of mind was bad, so the day was bad.

Putting that all aside, here’s my conclusions.


So far what I could find is going back to full-time school on a university level, or doing an online course. I didn’t look into this too much though.


This is kind of why I didn’t look into education much. I got stumped. I couldn’t find a career path that honestly interested me. There’s research psychology, but from what I could gather even that wouldn’t really be just doing research.

I’m quite discouraged with my findings. I checked several websites, they all pretty much said the same.

Psychology will probably just stay some hobby I sometimes spend time on.

I think I’m held back by fear a lot.
Fear of failure.
Specifically fear that my new job won’t make me happy.
And fear for my financial situation.

It’s not like I can just switch jobs. I need to keep the education in perspective as well. I feel like just throwing in the towel and walking away from this.

However, that’s not what I’m going to do! Dream big! Dream gigantic. I’m going to aim for super hero!

I won’t give up on finding my passion. Apparently it’s not something “obvious” so I’ll have to look more closely inside.

My goal is at least to have another post out by Sunday!

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Posted by on July 9, 2012 in Uncategorized


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“Hey, I saw your other blog. Isn’t your passion writing?” – random stranger

If only people would ask me questions. So I’m just asking one myself, it means another blog post after all.

Let me start by defining passion, so we’re all on the same page.

Passion (from the Ancient Greek verb πάσχω (paskho) meaning to suffer) is a term applied to a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion compelling feeling, enthusiasm, or desire for something. (source: Wikipedia)

I don’t know if it’s because I suppress my feelings by default, or just because I haven’t found what I’m looking for yet, but I hardly ever feel passion. Above all, it doesn’t last. For me it’s a fleeting feeling I may have one moment, and which is gone the next. This is also one of the problems I’m facing on my journey. I’ll get into that in a later post.

So what’s the deal with writing? I like writing, I could say I love writing, but I’m not passionate about it. I can go days, weeks, maybe longer not feeling like writing at all. I’ve heard from plenty of other writers things like “if I don’t write I feel -insert negative emotion-“, or “I have to write every day to feel happy.” Not so much for me. Writing can feel like a drag, like a chore, even when I’m in full control of what I’m writing, where I’m writing, how long I’m writing.

Maybe it’s that I love procrastinating on almost everything. Maybe I’m not disciplined enough, not motivated enough. Mostly what I get is that I simply “don’t feel like doing it”. It’s feeling.

My life is a bit like this, I get enthusiastic about anything, do the effort for nothing and my enthusiasm is gone within a week of sparking. This means I never push through, maybe because I didn’t want to climb that hill, or because everything outside my comfort zone is scary. And many will say, it’s because it’s not what you truly want. If it’s something you truly want, you will go grab it.

I don’t believe it’s true. I think we humans are lazy and go the easy way. Whichever gives us a reward, some payoff as Dr. Phil would say, we keep doing that. Doesn’t matter if it’s a good habit or a bad habit. That’s why it’s so hard to change your life. If we figure out what we get from something, what our brain likes, we can look for alternatives.

Writing for me is a hobby. It’s not something I could do every day. It’s not something I could make a living out of. At least, as far as my view goes.
Why? Because I don’t want to write anything besides fiction and then I want to write my fiction, my stories. So unless I manage to write a book that would sell like crazy…

Can I make writing my passion? Perhaps. It just doesn’t seem like something I would like to pursue on a more serious basis.

Do you have something you wish you were more passionate about? What are ways you keep your enthusiasm/motivation going? Or do you struggle with that as well?


Posted by on May 20, 2012 in Uncategorized


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